Being Present for Pleasure
Do you relate to any of this?
Disassociating during s*x, perhaps due to past trauma.
Worrying about whether it's taking too long.
Wondering if you're "doing it right."
Thinking about what's going to happen next.
Wondering what time it is.
Wondering whether the other person is "into it."
All of this is taking us out of the experience of pleasure.
So what's the antidote? Being in your body! How do you do that? Like most things, it's about building the "muscle" that allows you to do that. I was inspired recently by a one-on-one tantra coaching session I led with a woman who, due to past trauma, easily disassociated during s*x and we co-created a way for her to be 100% present for pleasure. And now I am bringing this to all of you, as a simple practice we can engage in together. There is something powerful about doing this in a group, where the energy of pleasure increases exponentially.
In this Present for Pleasure virtual workshop, I will lead a guided 60 minute self-pleasure practice that incorporates a tantra approach called shakti meditation that I learned from my teacher training with the Tao Tantric Arts, whereby you are connecting with your body every step of the way. It is a cameras-off experience, and you have the option of keeping your sound on or not. However, if I don't already know you, I will want to meet with you via video prior to weed out any interlopers who might slip through. This way it helps to create a safe container. It also is a powerful self-love practice, which begins simply by caressing one's skin in a loving, gentle, tender way. This is a 60 minute virtual workshop. Saturday Dec 7, 12-1 pm EST, 9-10 am PST, 7-8 pm EET (Greece), 6-7 pm CET (Europe).
Goddess Spot: If you've been following me, you might know that I taught myself last year how to access "the feminine fountain" and have Goddess-Spot orgasms. Let me emphasize how this has been a game changer for me. I am so much more empowered in my pleasure. This kind of pleasure is different from what most of us are used to. Whereas clitoral orgasms can be hard to achieve for some and often leave a person feeling tired afterwards, Goddess-Spot orgasms, once learned, are quite accessible, invigorate and energize, and are considered the most emotional of all the various kinds of orgasms. Personally, I can have 14+ orgasms in a row, sometimes just from feeling an intense love with my partner, not necessarily a result of physical stimulation. It is a crime that most women don't know about this! It took me over 60 years before even coming across someone who experienced this. And now that I have, I am completely inspired to bring it to all people in female bodies who desire to learn. I want to accommodate people in different time zones, so I scheduled with that in mind. I hope we get US East Coast, West Coast, Europe and Greece. This is a 90 minute virtual experience, cameras off for the experiential part of it. Saturday Dec 14, 1-2:30 pm EST, 10-11:30 am PST, 8-9:30 pm EET (Greece), 7-8:30 pm CET (Europe).
Lez Luv Virtual Community: I started Lez Luv (formerly Les Ladies) as a virtual community during Covid. We now have more than 1,000 women who are part of that meetup. As I am doing more tantra workshops and international traveling, I am finding I do not have the capacity to keep our virtual events going. I am looking for a team of volunteers who would like to run no cost virtual events such as Movie Night, Singles Salon, Game Night, Book Club--basically whatever you have the passion and energy for. Please message me at cynthia.lezluv@gmail.com.
Coming Up in 2025:
I am returning to the Island of Lesvos, Greece for March-June, September-November. I will be again offering two tantra trainings at the Women's International Festival in Skala Eressos on the island of Lesvos 7-20 September 2025, the biggest annual lesbian event in the world and the 25th anniversary of this remarkable festival.
I will be at Women’s Camp on the island of Femø in Denmark July 19-26, 2025 and will be giving at least one tantra workshop and hosting a cuddle space. Read more about it here.
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