Regardless of whether we identify as female, nonbinary, trans, butch, femme, etc., we all have our inner masculine and feminine. We can have healthy manifestations of those energies, or toxic unhealthy ways those appear. Aggressive vs assertive. Submissive vs allowing. When we try to ignore or squash something down is when it typically manifests in the unhealthy version.
In tantra teacher training with Agapi Apostolopoulou, I learned a simple meditation where you experiment with these two energies. We started with a focus on a rose, but it could be anything--a candle flame, a tree, an entire mountain. First, we used masculine energy, which is more emissive, and just focused on sending our energy over to that object. The mantra/intention for that meditation was "I focus." And you do just that. Then after 5-10 minutes of that, we changed to our feminine energy, which is more receptive, with the mantra "I allow." And you just allowed that object to penetrate you energetically. In the case of the rose, to simply allow yourself to receive the energy of the rose. When I started doing this meditation, it didn't do much for me. Then to my minor annoyance, we kept doing it over and over.
One day, while I was doing the meditation with a tree, I felt the energy of the tree penetrate my being. I felt oneness with the tree. My body went into an energy orgasm. Another day as I was hiking through the mountains, I stopped to take in the beauty surrounding me--so much natural wonder with very little signs of humans. After appreciating it and focusing on all of it, I realized I wanted to allow it to permeate me. To soak the energy into my existence. I paused, slowed down my breathing, and just went into the "I allow" meditation, letting the beauty and wonder of the mountains enter my energetic field, penetrate my being. Again, another energy orgasm, all while standing up!
If you'd like to explore these dynamics, and more importantly, the integration of the masculine and feminine energies within you, please join us on Friday August 23. In this Healing Through Pleasure workshop, we will be playing with the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies from different angles. Power, movement, dance, touch, giving and receiving energetically. You can sign up for that here. We will be limited to 23 people as before, so if you want to come, be sure to reserve your space soon.
Remember, it's all about consent! By coming, you are not obligated to touch anyone you don't want to, pair with anyone you don't want to, and are at free choice whether to engage in specific activities.
We love to see familiar faces. Part of the goal of these workshops is to build community with like-minded beings.
Coming Up: I am returning to the Island of Lesvos, Greece for the months of September and October. I will be offering two more tantra trainings at the Women's International Festival in Skala Eressos on the island of Lesvos, the biggest annual lesbian event in the world.
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